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A year of ins and outs

No hard rules, just better vibes and self-care

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Day 1 of 2023 selfie with my new Instax in Palm Springs

I'm not really one to wait for the new year to mark a big shift or a change. To be honest, the whole second half of 2022 was one big "well, I guess my life looks different now," in a weird yet fun way. Some things I chose. Some things chose me. Overall, I inadvertently became a more self-sufficient and focused artist through the encouragement of some nice people in my life and a decision to jump into the deep end.

Do it!

You should totally do it!

Are we gonna do that, or what?

If I could spend all my time either in the studio (art or music!) or on stage, I would. I'm moving further and further towards my ideal ratio of that and it took trusting myself, letting go of other people's expectations, and making some tough choices to do so. I mean, that's literally all of the advice from creative-people-who-know-stuff, right? Trust yourself. Start before you're ready. Yadda yadda yadda. Not like I've never tried before. I was just trying to get away with one foot in the safe zone. You'll get to hear what I'm talking about soon, I promise.

No matter your life circumstance, I think you can take certain jumps with only the safety net of a good friend cheering you on.

Some things I would highly suggest trying:

  • DMing someone you admire just to say you appreciate their work
  • Writing a list of activities you enjoy that have no impact on work or your creative practice
  • Reaching out to the people who choose you back
  • Ask to collaborate with a friend, even if you think they're busy, even if it's just for fun
  • Text a friend a link to a song you think they'd like
  • A 30-day creative challenge of your own choosing (tiny drawings, short songs, poems, journaling, photos, drinking enough water, collages, fan letters, whatever!)

Lastly, here are my ins and outs for the year. No hard rules, just better vibes and self-care.


  • Protecting my time
  • Audiobooks
  • The Five-Second Rule
  • Reaching out to friends
  • Queer family
  • Playing guitar every day, or at least more often
  • Collaboration (👋 wanna co-write?)
  • More donuts


  • Worrying what other people think
  • Making things that are just throwing spaghetti at the wall
  • Hitting snooze
  • Avoiding projects for no good reason
  • Making excuses for other people
  • Doomscrolling
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